It can be challenging to know how to best support your teenager through the challenging experience of adolescence. It’s crazy to admit, but they really grow up fast and this is a time of such rapid physical, emotional and intellectual development that will be different for each individual. However, as a parent, there are many things you can do to help your child during this time. This blog post discusses four ways you can be a supportive parent when your teen enters adolescence, I don’t mean I have all the answers but this is what’s working with my teen.
1) Listen to your child
Adolescence is a time of great change for teens, but also us parents. While the teen years are often characterized by alienation and defiance, it’s important to remember that these behaviors are common ways that teenagers try to establish independence. One of the things I constantly tell Aramis is that just because this is the way he thinks it’s supposed to be, it doesn’t have to be that way. As difficult as this stage can be for parents who have grown accustomed to their children being more compliant in childhood, you should give them space during adolescence while still remaining supportive through listening when they reach out. The best way you can do this is by encouraging communication between yourself and your teenager, so both sides understand each other better. You might not agree with everything your teenager says or does. Still, if you show respect, there will likely be greater opportunities for open dialogue down the road instead of resentment on either side. In short, talk and actively listen to your child.
2) Respect their independence
During the teen years, it’s important to remember that your child is becoming an adult and should be treated as such. This includes allowing them to make their own decisions (within reason) and respecting their opinions. It can be tough to step back and let go after nurturing our children for so many years, but it’s a crucial part of helping them grow into independent adults. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they do. On the contrary, healthy disagreement can actually help strengthen your relationship – but try not to overstep boundaries or undermine their authority. One of the things I tell Aramis as he walks out the door is “make good choices,” while I want to respect his choices, I also want to constantly remind him to consider and “make good choices.” All I can do is ask right? 😉
3) Encourage them to explore their interests
One of the great things about being a teenager is trying out new things and exploring different interests. This can be a time where your child may develop new hobbies or talents, so it’s important to encourage this exploration. You don’t have to participate in every activity they try (although you might want to), but show interest and support for their pursuits. In addition, letting them know that you believe in them can help boost their confidence as they navigate through these years. The high school that Aramis is enrolled in has many different tracks and is set up in a block schedule. I’m pretty proud that Aramis has taken it upon himself and decided that he would try a variety of classes to see what he enjoys best. Truly a proud moment for us.
4) Help them deal with stress and anxiety
Adolescence can be a time of high stress for teens as they try to figure out who they are and where they fit in. This can often lead to feelings of anxiety, which is why it’s important for parents to be supportive. You can do this by listening when your child talks about their anxieties, offering reassurance, and helping them find healthy ways to cope. Some strategies that may help include exercise, relaxation techniques, talking to a therapist, or participating in drug rehab centers.
In conclusion, it’s important as a parent to make sure your teenager knows you’re there for them and support their developmental changes. The more supportive you are, the better they will be able to cope during this complex time in their lives.
